We, as a family, are pretty close with Junior's ex-in-laws, Jean and Del. (for those who don't know, Junior was married once before, and his ex-wife died, years after their divorce...in fact, he was married to me and she was also remarried at the time...but that is a whole other story I am not going to get into right now) Every Saturday for the past month, Jean has called and asked if Kasi wanted to go and sit with her mom, who is elderly and can not be left alone. Jean has running around to do on Saturday's, and doesn't want to take her mom with her.
So it falls on Kasi. For the past few weeks, she has gone, and spent ALL DAY with Jean's mom. I mean, she goes over around 10am and doesn't get home until 6 or 7 at night.
Kasi is 12, and doesn't want to do it anymore.
I can't blame her. It is boring for her, and she wants to spend her weekends doing things with us. So when Jean called Saturday morning around 9am, I told Junior to tell her that we had plans with my mom, and Kasi wanted to stay with me. (we did have plans with my mom...I didn't make that up) Well, Jean got really mad, and pretty much hung up on Junior.
That's not really fair. She can not seriously think that Kasi enjoys spending her Saturday's talking to an 80+ year old woman who can't remember what she said two minutes ago, so she spends the day repeating herself. (I am not being mean...imagine you are 12...what would you rather do?) I don't want to cause hard feelings, but Kasi isn't interested in doing it anymore.
How would you handle this situation?
2 comments:
I agree - that is no way for a 12 year old to spend her Saturday and it's kind of selfish of Jean to expect it. You may need to have a sit down with her and explain that Kasi has done her time but she deserves to be a kid, too, just like I'm sure everyone else did. It's too much responsibility to dump on a 12 year old.
Once in a while if Kasi wants to is fine. But to expect her every weekend? no, not good. If it is an issue Jean needs to hire a professional.
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