So, Brandi got off the bus today in tears. She looked at me and said she was never, ever going back to that school ever again! Those were her exact words. I asked her why not...
Remember my last post, about the girls who don't want to be her friend because she was friends with Lessa? Well, there is one girl, who I will call Mean, that is the ring leader. She was friendly with Brandi the first few days, and then stopped talking to her, because she is friends with Lessa. Brandi wants very badly to be Mean's friend, because she sits next to her in class. Mean is also on her bus.
For the past two weeks, Mean has been ignoring Brandi. When Brandi asks why, she says it's because her head hurts, and she doesn't want to talk. Okay, whatever. Then a few days ago, Brandi asked Mean to sit with her and Kasi on the bus, and she agreed. They are fine in the mornings on the bus, but as soon as they get to school, Mean ignores Brandi. Even at recess, if Brandi tries to play with her, Mean runs away from her.
Today was apparently the last straw for Brandi. Right before recess, Brandi asked Mean to write her phone number in her agenda. She said okay, and asked Brandi to write hers in her agenda. When Brandi was finished, mean took it and scribbled out the number.
OOOhhhhh, my mommy blood was boiling at this point in the story, because this little girl is causing my baby to be so upset. Brandi was sobbing as she told me this.
So, I told Brandi that Mean was a crap head little sh*t. Okay, I didn't really say that, but I sure was thinking it. What I told Brandi was that Mean didn't sound like a very nice person, and I asked her if she really wanted to be friends with someone who was so mean. She said no, so I told her to concentrate on the girls who like her for who she is, and are already her friends, and to ignore Mean. I told her not to sit with her on the bus, and if she tries to talk to her, for Brandi to tell her that she won't talk to her because she doesn't want to be her friend. Why should my child keep getting her feelings hurt?
Brandi also asked me to email her teacher, and ask if her seat could be moved away from Mean. I told her to really think about it, because if I did write the email, she would probably be moved away from Lessa, too. (she sits on Brandi's other side). After a while, Brandi decided that it was okay if she was...she just wants to get away from Mean that bad. So I sent the email, but haven't heard anything yet. I probably won't until Monday.
How do kids learn to be so mean? I don't know how much more I can handle of this. It is so hard not to cry myself when I see Brandi so upset, but I know it would only make things worse for her. She is so tenderhearted. I wish there was a way I could make all of this better.
Any ideas?
