I want to thank you all for your supportive words on my last post about this mess with Brandi. You guys rock! I have been feeling so much guilt about changing her school, but have come to accept that this is just a part of life, and hopefully will soon pass. For now, we kind of came up with a plan....Today was "family day", which means we headed to my mom's house for an afternoon of food, fun, and family time. My sister was there, too, along with my niece and nephew. It's crazy how much I love those kids! Anyway, yesterday, mom told me she read my posts about Brandi, and that it upset her. I can't talk about it at all without getting upset, so she told my sister what was going on. So today, at my mom's, Brandi got upset thinking about having to go to school tomorrow and dealing with Mean. My mom, Colleen and I sat and talked with her, and told her that not all kids will like her, and that there will be mean kids everywhere. She just needs to let the mean kids know that she won't let them bother her anymore.
And do you know what my sweet little girl said to me as we laying in bed tonight? She is afraid that if she ignores Mean, that it will look like she is the bad person. I told her that as long as she isn't nasty, and doesn't say anything mean, then she will never be the bad person.
So, thankfully she has this new friend Mya (Lessa's friend) that she sits with for breakfast now, and there are four girls who she will play with at recess. She is happy about this, but still stressing about sitting next to Mean in class. I really hope the teacher will move her, but I haven't heard anything back from her yet. Hopefully in the morning.
I just hope we can get on the bus in the morning tear free...
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You know, everyone says life gets harder as you get older, but seriously, do you remember how painful it was then when people were unnecessarily mean?
I think I was watching t.v (I know bad place to find advice, but really!) and someone was telling the kid not to worry because that person was harsh and mean now, they will always be this way, and eventually, one day when people don't like those how are mean, they will have to reap what they have sowed as well.
All I can say is I hope she has a good day at school today. Kids can be very mean to each other for some reason.
I;m so glad that things are working out for Brandi. My mom used to tell me when the mean kids were bothering me in school that they do what they do because they are jealous of something. I never believed her then, but when I reflect back, I can see it now. Maybe there is jealousy...like Brandi having the ability to make friends so easily. Obviously, Mean doesn't have this problem. And it's a shame, because she could if she wanted to.
I hope this morning went well! Give her a hug for me, okay?
yeah, i hope that too...am sure, she can find good friends soon...i can tell Brandi is a sweet girl..
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