Does your employer have the right to know exactly what you have been doing on your computer at work? I know some companies do not allow internet access, while others simply limit the sites you can visit. I would hate to work for a company that felt like they couldn't trust me, but I guess these policies are in place to make sure nothing illegal is going on.
I have the same conflicted thoughts when it comes to monitoring my kids online activity. I have no problem checking their histories to make sure they aren't visiting porn sites, or places like that, but I don't think I need to know their every key stroke by using spy software. When I was growing up, computers were fairly new, and the internet didn't exist. Parents snooped on their kids by going through their rooms. Now parents would have to check cell phones and computers, as well as bedrooms and dresser drawers. I know some parents think it is their right to do this. I don't agree with that. Now, if my kids give me a reason not to trust them, then all bets are off. You know I will be all up in their business, checking whatever I felt necessary. But as far as searching their rooms, or computers, looking for who knows what, well, I don't think I could do that. I want my kids to trust me, and know that they can come to me for anything. I think that I have to show them that I trust them in order for that to happen. Does that make sense?
Who knows. In a few years, when my kids are a little older, I might change my mind. I may need to monitor their online activity more closely, to make sure they are staying on the right path. All I know is that for now, I am going to trust my kids to make the right choices.
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I am with you in the fact that if they lose that trust all bets are off. I can tell you that at my daughter Lexi's age I am much more watchful of what she does but not because I don't trust her. I just remember who I was. I remember the things that went on. People were already trying to get me to smoke at 13. I know that my niece has actually received texts from boys asking for oral sex. I am sorry if that's too bold. I don't mean to offend. My daughter Lexi has privacy WITH the stipulation that I can and might check at any given time. I won't obsess over it. I won't do it every day. There might be a time out of the blue though that I read a text or look in her room or maybe check out her facebook. My Lexi has already had an old man from the UK try to send her a friend's request. Eeek! She may not understand how awful the end results could be to some of the decisions she makes. Yet she does need to learn from her own mistakes so I really do try to balance it out.
Sandi ~ I agree 100%. My son is 14 and my daughter is 13, and they know that I have complete access to their facebook accounts. they are not allowed to accept any friend requests from people other than friends. It's weird, but I have had (probably well intentioned) blog friends request to be their friends, and I reject (most) of them. I know we get to know people and make friends through blogging, but I am not willing to put my kids at risk, because do we really know them? Know what I mean?
My issue with the checking their phones and such is that I will not do it behind their backs. If I ask to see their phones and they hesitate, then I know somethings up, and I will check the phone. My thing is that I don't want them to not trust me, because then they start to hide things more. Does that make sense?
And you didn't offend...I know how sex crazed kids can be...and they seem to be getting younger and younger. I am dreading the day I find out my kids are doing any of it. I just hope it is a day in the future...like when they're 30. :)
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