Confused yet?
Let me explain. Sometime in January, my sister approached me and asked if I would be willing to do something special for our mom's birthday this year. She's turning 60. Of course I said yes, so a trip was planned. We are taking mom away for her birthday weekend. She doesn't know where we are going, only that she will need to pack comfortable shoes and clothes she won't sweat in. Brandi will be coming with us, because she doesn't want to stay home, and honestly, if I left her behind, I would be worrying the entire weekend that she is home crying. I know she's 8, but I have never been away from her for more than a few hours, and really, it's not a big deal that she comes.
Anyway, we are leaving May 13th, and coming back on the 16th. This is where my mom guilt kicks in, because Kasi's birthday is May 14th, and I won't be here for it.
And it's her 13th birthday.
Yeah, I know. It's been killing me. She says she doesn't care if I'm not here, and we are planning two different parties for her the following weekend. But, I know if my mom missed one of my birthdays, especially the one where I became a teenager, I would be a little upset.
This is Kasi the day we brought her home from the hospital:
Anyway, Junior plans on taking Kasi wherever she wants on her birthday. In fact, I told him to make the whole weekend special. And I plan on making the following weekend special for her, too. We are planning a slumber party for the 21st, and a big party at my mom's house (with the pool!) on the 23rd. My grandmother and favorite aunt are coming up from Florida that weekend, so Kasi will get to see them. They haven't seen my kids in about six years. That will be special, too.
I just wish I could get rid of the guilt I feel for missing Kasi's birthday. Any suggestions?
6 comments:
It'll be fine...plan something special with Just her before u go or after u get back!
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Miss Donna ~ I will. I just hate that I will not see her on her birthday. I think it's bothering me more than it's bothering her, though.
I think that no matter what we say, you are going to feel that guilt, unfortunately. Just be sure that she is being honest with you, and trust what she is saying. It sounds like her birthday may end up MORE special when you get back!
Vicki ~ we were talking about it today, and she said she is looking forward to going out to eat with her dad, so I guess I feel a little better.
Very little.
Don't feel guilty! I know that feeling all too well! Do something special before or after. 60 is incredible and yiu just can't miss that.
Diana ~ I know. This is a big year for my mom, my daughter, and two sisters...60, 13, 40 and 30. It will be nice spending a weekend with my mom and my sister, and you're right. 60 is special.
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